When You Say Yes to an Older Child

When You Say Yes to an Older Child

“What is it like adopting an older child? Should we break birth order? Do you have any words of wisdom for bringing an older child into our home? How will it affect our children?”

These are the most asked questions that land in my inbox. And buddy, are they loaded. I never can respond with the fullness of what I want to say, and honestly, even trying to tackle this subject here is daunting. But I believe it is worth it. You know why?

Because somewhere out there, there’s a girl sitting in another foster home, being shuffled around again, with the only items she owns in a trash bag who really needs a Mama, a forever Mama, to tell her she’s beautiful, to tuck her in at night, and sit with her while she cries.

Somewhere out there is a boy, who sees all of the babies getting adopted, getting a chance to have a forever family, and he’s saying, “What about me?” He deserves a family too. He deserves to have a Mom and a Dad teach him to be a gentleman at the table, show up to his awards days at school, and sing over him as he falls asleep.

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I Want to Adopt...What Now?

I Want to Adopt...What Now?

The question I get the most from so many people is, “So I know we want to adopt. What do we do next?”

It’s a loaded question. One a short little Facebook message or Instagram DM doesn’t have words for. So on this last week of National Adoption Awareness Month, I thought I’d share with you what I’ve learned through our experiences.

Please know, I do not claim to be an expert. Nor do I believe the ways mentioned below are the only ways. I am simply going to throw some information out to you that will hopefully give you a place to begin your own research.

After we knew we were ready to adopt, I literally typed this same question into google, and the results were extremely overwhelming. So I am going to try to break it down for you in a way that helped me understand best. Hopefully it will be a great beginning place for you to start!

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