We knew we could never do this parenting thing alone.
We weren’t even home from the hospital with her and the people we did life with had already decorated our house. That doesn’t even take into consideration the family and friends who rallied around us, helped us complete paperwork, donated garage sale items, and wrapped around us as we journeyed through adoption to bring her home. The hundreds of strangers who bought a piece of jewelry from my shop or the random checks or cash we would find in our mailbox as we waited for her.
I’m so thankful we’ve never had to do life without community. I can’t imagine what it would look like. I’m just pretty certain it’s something I would never want to do. It’s a risk, letting people in, it is. Opening your front door with dirty dishes still in the sink and sticky kitchen floors, it can be a little nerve wracking. But opening your heart up, letting them walk through that kind of mess is much scarier. But, oh the beauty we’ve found in community over the years. It’s been so worth the risk.
If you’ve been around here for some time, you’ve probably been on the journey with me of learning how to care for Selah’s hair and skin. It’s definitely an area I am always growing in, but man, I’ve learned so much along the way!
Last week, a childhood friend sent a desperate text, “Hair help please!” She had just gotten a new foster placement and this sweet girl was in desperate need of hair care. I’m so glad I’m finally in a place where I can help! I actually know how to help! So she came over and I washed and styled sweet girl’s hair and it was my honor to love on her and her foster mama in that way.
I realized that many of you who have babies born from your heart might need the same help, so I’m going to take you step by step throughout our wash day. I’ll show you exactly what to do, and tell you all about these amazing products we’ve been using lately.
We were in Target about a year ago and Selah saw a little girl with beads in her hair and absolutely fell in love. We ended up going over to the little girl and telling her how beautiful her beads were. Before we had even walked away, Selah said, “Mommy, you HAVE to get me beads in me hair like that beautiful wittle girl.”
If you’ve been around here for a while, you know caring for Selah’s hair has been a journey, one I’m honored to be on. So many people have asked me over the years, “How are you going to care for her hair?” And my response is always the same, “I’m going to learn.” Caring for her skin and hair, is me loving her well. And I’m going to do everything in my power to love this sweet girl well. Even though I’ve learned so much over the last four years, I still know I have much more to learn. But I’m happy with the progress.
So shortly after that Target trip, we went to Hobby Lobby and got some beads. I had no idea what to get but she liked the color combination of the bag she picked out, and they beads were large enough I knew her hair would slide through them. We came home, washed her hair, and got to work.